I used to do most of my blogging on another site called "www.multiply.com" - but it has since changed direction and ejected all of the bloggers.
I have had to import all my blogs from that period over to blogger. A lot of them are just junk. But I wrote some nice stuff as well - like this one:
It seems very sad that as wedding ceremonies/ honeymoons become more and more elaborate, fantastic, and expensive, the greater the number of divorces.
Beautiful wedding ceremony - pity it didn't last as long as the expiry date of the cake.
Perhaps too much attention is being paid to the exterior, external surface of marriages, and less on the actual integrity of the relationship. You can see all that on the Woman's Day magazines - glamor glamor glamor... omg wedding rings, designer wedding dresses, wedding dinners of the century, celebrity guests... and then... what happens?
(Having said that - I believe that marriages in ages past - were often iron rod legal contracts - in which both parties never knew each other - in which women were treated as a commodity, property, not as a human being... but custom, traditional, and misogynistic factors kept married people together - which seems fubar to me.)
I would think that before all marriages or even engagements take place - simple exercises ought to be taken which address 1. Mutual Respect, 2. Amicable Conflict Resolution, 3. Intolerable individual Traits and Practices - my, that was a mouthful.
Marriage is after all more than just a love affair - its a partnership - you're working together to build up a relationship - eventually - a family/children - will come into this relationship. But if the core values of the partners are not right - its going to be a short and bitter journey.
Here's something I made up just then:
By the shores of the water we walk
Hand in hand
As the sun sets, so we bid farewell to our past lives
Let us greet the sunrise, this New Day, not as individuals with our own separate plans
But together as one, heart and soul, body and mind, devoted to one another
Caring not for our own selves but for each other.
Hand in Hand, Heart to heart
Our Destinies Entwined
We greet the faint rays of the Morning dawn as One
My Love, hold me close.
I think the essence of a successful marriage or just a good relationship starts off with good communication and respect. Treasure such friendships. They are Gold.
I have had to import all my blogs from that period over to blogger. A lot of them are just junk. But I wrote some nice stuff as well - like this one:
It seems very sad that as wedding ceremonies/ honeymoons become more and more elaborate, fantastic, and expensive, the greater the number of divorces.
Beautiful wedding ceremony - pity it didn't last as long as the expiry date of the cake.
Perhaps too much attention is being paid to the exterior, external surface of marriages, and less on the actual integrity of the relationship. You can see all that on the Woman's Day magazines - glamor glamor glamor... omg wedding rings, designer wedding dresses, wedding dinners of the century, celebrity guests... and then... what happens?
(Having said that - I believe that marriages in ages past - were often iron rod legal contracts - in which both parties never knew each other - in which women were treated as a commodity, property, not as a human being... but custom, traditional, and misogynistic factors kept married people together - which seems fubar to me.)
I would think that before all marriages or even engagements take place - simple exercises ought to be taken which address 1. Mutual Respect, 2. Amicable Conflict Resolution, 3. Intolerable individual Traits and Practices - my, that was a mouthful.
Marriage is after all more than just a love affair - its a partnership - you're working together to build up a relationship - eventually - a family/children - will come into this relationship. But if the core values of the partners are not right - its going to be a short and bitter journey.
Here's something I made up just then:
By the shores of the water we walk
Hand in hand
As the sun sets, so we bid farewell to our past lives
Let us greet the sunrise, this New Day, not as individuals with our own separate plans
But together as one, heart and soul, body and mind, devoted to one another
Caring not for our own selves but for each other.
Hand in Hand, Heart to heart
Our Destinies Entwined
We greet the faint rays of the Morning dawn as One
My Love, hold me close.
I think the essence of a successful marriage or just a good relationship starts off with good communication and respect. Treasure such friendships. They are Gold.
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